Another ingredient to a healthy marriage is a complete commitment to the marriage. You may remember the wedding vows that many people take: “to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.” This vow represents a total commitment to your spouse for a lifetime, no matter what may come your way. Such a commitment requires control of your thoughts, not ever allowing you to even think about divorce. Once you start entertaining thoughts of divorce, you play into Satan’s hands who will then tempt you with worse thoughts and a deeper commitment to the idea of divorce, making you think that you’d be better off without the other person, which you certainly will not.
As an extension to this idea of keeping your thoughts about your marriage ever positive, you should also never entertain bad thoughts of your spouse. If you control your thoughts at the outset, not ever allowing yourself to entertain a negative thought about your spouse, always preferring to think of them in positive terms, you will never even get to the stage of entertaining thoughts of divorce. This positive mindset toward your spouse does not mean that your spouse has no faults, but you are no better than your spouse. Our pride often blinds us to our own faults, making us think that we are better than others, thus leading us to a judgmental attitude that overlooks our frailties and magnifies the faults of the other person. So it’s best to always have a positive, non-judgmental attitude toward your spouse for the health of your marriage.
I pray that you will be guided by God in your relationships, especially your marriage and that you would be open to the conviction of the Holy Spirit about your own faults so that God can then teach you out of them.