Indeed, we can do nothing of any merit in our own power. Without His power, we become merely like the people of the world that we sometimes marvel at in their spiritual ignorance and the resulting selfishness, hatred, violence, lust, etc., in their thoughts, motives, and actions. We must never forget that the only difference between them and us is that He has saved us with His Precious Blood, and He is at work in us to work out the error in our flesh, a work that will take a lifetime (Phillipians 1:6, Phillipians 2:13), but will not even be completed until we see Him face to face. But with Him at work in us, we “can do all things through Christ” whose power strengthens us and becomes perfected in our weakness.
Not only can He empower us to be what we need to be for the others in our relationships, but He can also convict us when we are wrong, when our motives are not as pure as we originally thought in our spiritual blindness and ignorance. And His truth convicting us sets us free to grow in maturity, and to become the kind of people that don’t wound others without thinking. Moreover, His power can heal our wounded hearts when we desire to forgive or ask forgiveness but can’t get beyond our own wounded feelings.
A healthy marriage relationship or any other kind of romantic relationship between a man and a woman may not always be balanced. I have found so many times in our own marriage that either I or my wife will be giving more than 100 percent in order to make up for the weaknesses or frailties in the other person. But again, with God’s help, so long as the two of us continue to seek Him out daily and often during the day, then He helps us through those times until the balance is restored, wisdom and healing are brought back to the relationship. Besides God’s help, I believe there have to be two more ingredients for a healthy relationship.
Still more on this tomorrow.