The kind of love that 1 Corinthians 13 refers to is a very high standard, yet it is something that we all must aspire to in our relationships.  To aspire to such a love, marriage, especially, but also any kind of relationship, takes work.  It’s a pretty tall order for anyone to love this way and to do so consistently.  Our human flaws will inevitably cause us to stumble from time to time, resulting in our hurting others in our relationships.  But we cannot accomplish any of this by ourselves.  We most definitely need God’s help.  Jesus warned us in John 15:4-6 we need to “abide” in Him.  This means that we are living by Him daily, constantly getting our spiritual, emotional, and even intellectual nourishment from Him throughout the day.  In this passage, though, He also warns that “without me you can do nothing.” 

Indeed, we can do nothing of any merit in our own power.  Without His power, we become merely like the people of the world that we sometimes marvel at in their spiritual ignorance and the resulting selfishness, hatred, violence, lust, etc., in their thoughts, motives, and actions.  We must never forget that the only difference between them and us is that He has saved us with His Precious Blood, and He is at work in us to work out the error in our flesh, a work that will take a lifetime (Phillipians 1:6, Phillipians 2:13), but will not even be completed until we see Him face to face.   But with Him at work in us, we “can do all things through Christ” whose power strengthens us and becomes perfected in our weakness

Not only can He empower us to be what we need to be for the others in our relationships, but He can also convict us when we are wrong, when our motives are not as pure as we originally thought in our spiritual blindness and ignorance.  And His truth convicting us sets us free to grow in maturity, and to become the kind of people that don’t wound others without thinking.  Moreover, His power can heal our wounded hearts when we desire to forgive or ask forgiveness but can’t get beyond our own wounded feelings.

A healthy marriage relationship or any other kind of romantic relationship between a man and a woman may not always be balanced. I have found so many times in our own marriage that either I or my wife will be giving more than 100 percent in order to make up for the weaknesses or frailties in the other person.  But again, with God’s help, so long as the two of us continue to seek Him out daily and often during the day, then He helps us through those times until the balance is restored, wisdom and healing are brought back to the relationship.  Besides God’s help, I believe there have to be two more ingredients for a healthy relationship.

Still more on this tomorrow.



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    I'm a retired soldier, having spent 23 years of my life serving our country, actually 30 years when you count the reserve and National Guard time as well.  I believe in servant leaders, following the example of our Lord, and I believe in giving back to the troops once one has attained a certain status or level of success in life.  But I also believe in fighting back against corruption and incompetence wherever you find it if it hurts people.  Our national values were worth dying for.  They are also worth living for.  A man or woman can actually live a life by these principles of humility, service, love, duty, and honor, and have a significant impact on the world around them...if you have the dedication to see it through. 


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