First it must be established that love is the highest principle, the highest law, in serving God and man. When Jesus was challenged to state what the greatest commandment was, he answered, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments” (Matthew 22:37-40 ). So, we start with love in all things and have a purpose of love in all things in the home. All family rules which are designed to keep order and peace within the house should be based in and connected to love. Anything that is not founded in love is purely legalism, which is the often the tool of Satan used for mischief, disorder, confusion, and strife as he tries to break apart relationships or create animosity within the home between family members. Any rule that is legalistic and not tied to the principle of love will most likely result in Satanic mischief, bringing anger, disappointment, and grief to all concerned. So love is the foundation, the starting point, and the daily necessity in building and maintaining the affairs of the family and its dynamics.
There may be many single-parent households. Although this is not optimal, if God is at work in the home and is a principle player in all things within the home, with everyone, especially the single parent, submitted to God and spending time with Him daily, God will ensure that there is a good outcome, making it seem as if there were a full family with two parents. God can easily fill in the spaces in our lives if we turn to Him for all things. He can be the Father to the fatherless, Spouse to the spouseless, and Mother to the motherless. Although he is not specifically referred to as a mother in His Word, many verses portray Him in mothering roles: Isaiah 42:14, Numbers 11:12, Isaiah 49:14-15, Isaiah 66:12-13, Not to be misunderstood, I want to emphasize that God is so much higher and greater than we are, so He is above and beyond “gender” as we understand it here on this earth. He loves people of both genders equally and even human beings that are, for whatever His purposes, created with both genders simultaneously.
He is so great and mysterious that He encompasses within Him the qualities which we would ascribe to both genders on this earth. But for the sake of simplicity, I believe He simply chose the role of Father, the authority figure, protector, and provider, to portray Himself to us in his revelation of Himself in His word in order that we could understand in a simplified way who He Is, and so that He could subsequently, help us, teach us, have fellowship with us, and keep our lives and actions within acceptable, productive, and worthy boundaries. Jesus was certainly male and the Father in heaven is often portrayed in the role of a protective loving male, but God contains within Him many of the same qualities or traits we would find in both a father and a mother toward their children here on earth. This is a great mystery. There are some things that we will never be able to comprehend about God since He is so much greater, higher, purer, etc. than we are.
He is beyond comprehension for the limited human mind, although He does reveal certain things about Himself to us as we are capable of receiving. But, in trying to understand who God is, we often bring Him down to our level, define Him in our terms, and put Him in little boxes of our own making, pretending that He is definable and limitable. Although He has made Himself accessible through the doorway of His Son Jesus, He is not simply "the man upstairs." Despite our familiarity with Him, He is still a Boundless, Limitless,Infinite, Majestic, and Great God that is beyond our wildest highest imaginations of how Great He Is. He is so Great that we cannot even adequately discern and explain in human words how Great He Is.
I pray that you would experience His Overwhelming Love in your life today.