Today, 14 February, we celebrate Valentine’s Day.  I hope this news doesn’t catch you by surprise such that you have to rush out and grab something for your “significant other.” As one of my reader’s posted on my Facebook Page for Lonely Road Home, it can be a lonely day for some if you do not have a love interest or spouse to share this day with.  I believe there is a gift for singleness that some have in which they are happy in their own skin and do not need to have someone else to share life with.  If you are one of those people or if you just happen to be alone in this chapter of your life, there is no dishonor in being alone, so I pray you won't allow people to make you feel bad about your life nor should you allow yourself to feel as if you are unusual.  There are countless others that live alone and are perfectly happy.  But for the majority of the rest of us, we are hard-wired to need someone else.  Just as with Adam in the Bible, it is not good for us to be alone (Gen. 2:18).  So those of us who have someone else in our lives have this day to celebrate romantic love just as we have done for several hundred years.  It is a day of liturgical celebration for one or more Christian saints by the name of Valentinus.  We’ve celebrated it with the exchange of cards since the 19th century, although cards were hand-made back then while we buy pre-made valentines in the modern celebration of this holiday.

From Wikipedia, which, like a broken clock, is sometimes right:  “The day was first associated with romantic love in the circle of Geoffrey Chaucer in the High Middle Ages, when the tradition of courtly love flourished. By the 15th century, it had evolved into an occasion in which lovers expressed their love for each other by presenting flowers, offering confectionery, and sending greeting cards (known as "valentines"). Valentine's Day symbols that are used today include the heart-shaped outline, doves, and the figure of the winged Cupid. Since the 19th century, handwritten valentines have given way to mass-produced greeting cards.”

Flowers, candy, cards, and perhaps a romantic dinner are common ways to celebrate this holiday.  There are also a number of good romantic movies that can be shared with your Valentine either at the theater or at home on your cable or dvd.  One romantic movie that was aired this week on cable was Wallis and Edward.  This 2005 movie is based on the incredible story of Edward VIII who abdicated his throne in 1936, less than a year into his reign, for the love of a woman.  The perspective of the movie is from the viewpoint of Wallis, the woman for whom Edward left his crown.  It is a very good story, reminding us how important it is to have that one true love in your life, certainly more important than riches and power.  One can have riches and power yet never have that one true love, leaving you with a feeling of emptiness or incompleteness.  I believe that was why David fell for Bathsheba in the Bible (2 Samuel 11).  In spite of all his riches and power and all his wives and concubines, David did not know anyone personally and intimately, leaving him dissatisfied in spite of all he had. 


Of course, the ultimate fulfillment that we seek in life can only be satisfied with God.  If we do not have Him, there is absolutely no one that can satisfy us completely.  Many people try to fill the hole in their spirit with people rather than God.  I believe this is the reason that so many marriages end in divorce -- because people try to fill that tremendous hole with another person, but since only God can fill that hole, the other person leaves them dissatisfied when they cannot live up to such tremendous demands for affection or even perfection.  It is way too much to hang all your happiness on another person and is unfair to that person, although many do this very thing.  Only God can love us in that way.  Being frail humans, though, many of us are not up to the task of relying on God alone early in our life, so we end up needing someone with "skin" that we can physically touch.  There is nothing wrong with that.  God wants us to have all that our hearts desire (Psalm 37:4).  And He will give us all those things once we put Him first in our lives (Mat. 6:33). 

That said, it is a tremendous gift to have someone to share your life with.  That one love could be someone whom you knew was your soul-mate from the very beginning, just as I have known my wife was my soul-mate since December 1, 1984.  It was truly love at first sight for me.  I just knew when I met her that she was “the one.”  No other girl had fit into me quite right, but my Lesia fit into me perfectly from the beginning as if we had been designed for each other from our births.  She was my Eve, and I was her Adam.  When we first met, we were so consumed with the joy of each other's company that it was as if we were alone, like Adam and Eve in the Garden, regardless of who was around us and how many were around us.  I know that not everyone experiences that one lifetime love as a “love at first sight.”  Many grow into their love as they walk together through the storms and joys of life, with a love that grows to be just as strong as any other.  Either way, it is a wonderful blessing, and even richer and more wonderful if you have the blessing of raising children in the middle of that love. 

I pray today that you will joy in romantic love with someone else.  If you are alone and lonely, then I pray for God's Perfect Peace and Comfort for you.  If you are married, I pray that you will fully appreciate the unique and wonderful gift of a lifetime love and that you will open your heart this day to fully express your gratitude to your spouse.  If you are looking for that lifetime love, I pray that you will soon find him or her and that God will guide the two of you together but at the perfect time when you are both ready for each other. 

 


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02/12/2017 7:23am

Such a romantic post, but why only valentines day if you love someone every day is valentines day. But overall very well written article

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