We are better served, and our children are better prepared, when we admit that life is messy and difficult.  We can help them by teaching them the rules and principles that will allow them power over these obstacles in their lives.  Moreover, in the critical points of the struggle of life, we can show them how to lean on God for guidance and power.  But perhaps the best teacher is a good example.  We should model the principles that we say we believe so that our children know that they are true and so that they can see the possibility of how to go about applying these principles to their lives. 

Moreover, we should accept the messiness of life that comes in our children, the playful exuberance that frequently shatters the day as they play various games with each other.  We can follow the Victorian model of children that are seen but not heard, but this is foolishness, too.   Children are not museum pieces that adorn our lives to be trotted out for display whenever we have the urge, then quickly put back away.  They are real human beings that need fun and enjoyment and deserve our attention, affections, and teaching, which must be done, as the Bible says, “diligently” whenever we have opportunity for life lessons throughout the everyday activities.  And what good is a silent house that doesn’t resound with the joyous music of life, children’s laughter.  A silent house is a sign that things are “under control.”  The silence is a harbinger of death, a sign that we have murdered our children’s spirits with constant scolding about their normal play or constant demands to live within an exacting, legalistic framework of rules, or that we have successfully taught them the lesson that they do not matter to us by not wanting to hear them nor have them intrude into our lives of self-indulgence. 

Who cares if a few things get broken from time to time.  In those moments, we have the opportunity to teach our children that we all make mistakes and that it is okay to make mistakes.  We can also teach them that people always matter more than things.  Remember that we own those things.  They do not own us, putting abnormal parameters on our lives as we fear losing one of these things and the subsequent unraveling of our world view built misguidedly on material things.

I am not advocating a house where there is no order or discipline or boundaries.  As good stewards, we should exercise normal care and maintenance for the material things that God has given us.  Also, safety is a paramount concern with children, and it is our responsibility to protect them from themselves since we have greater experience and wisdom.  I am merely saying that it is okay for life to erupt into unplanned mistakes or mirthful craziness from time to time.  Life is meant to be enjoyed, not just endured.  When our children are playing those raucous games with each other, they are establishing relationships for the rest of their lives.  You cannot force these things, and you cannot go back in time to teach them when the moment of teaching is past.

We should not fear making mistakes in these things ourselves.  It is okay for us to make mistakes even in the great, important things of life.  Character and relationships can be built in those moments if we remember two very useful phrases.  “I’m sorry” and “I was wrong.”  Never be afraid to speak these words, especially to your children.  You do not diminish yourself by speaking them.  Instead, you make yourself much bigger in the eyes of the listener.  You show that there are principles bigger than you, and that you honor the God behind those principles.  Moreover, you show that you are big enough to admit your own mistakes and frailties, and you show that your world is big enough to allow others into it. 

Never fall for the foolish thinking that you can ever protect yourself from the messiness of life.  People want to think this way because they love control.  But control in life is often, if not always, an illusion.  The people that tried to build the tower of Babel thought they could have such control, building beyond the reach of God’s judgment.  You can never put yourself beyond the danger of life, nor should you try.  It is okay to plan for the rainy day, but it is not okay to seek to be beyond need of God’s help.  If you ever reach that point, you will not have the peace that you think you will.  You will always be worried about losing that position.  It is much better to live in dependence on the God who will never fail. 



04/04/2017 7:46am

Any kind of education is necessary people have to spend their life according to rule and regulation. The parents have to teach children how they can make their life powerful and become successful. Thanks for the article to share in detail that is close to reality.


I love the whole thought of this post; that life isn't perfect and messiness in life is normal. Well, we can never avoid committing wrong decisions. I believe that it has been part of our lives, and should not be afraid to committing one already. As what was said here, "you can never avoid the messiness of life!" True enough, because all of us must be struggling being perfect without realizing there's no need to be. It's perfect time for all of us to accept that life is meant to be like that!

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    I'm a retired soldier, having spent 23 years of my life serving our country, actually 30 years when you count the reserve and National Guard time as well.  I believe in servant leaders, following the example of our Lord, and I believe in giving back to the troops once one has attained a certain status or level of success in life.  But I also believe in fighting back against corruption and incompetence wherever you find it if it hurts people.  Our national values were worth dying for.  They are also worth living for.  A man or woman can actually live a life by these principles of humility, service, love, duty, and honor, and have a significant impact on the world around them...if you have the dedication to see it through. 


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